Ever read a book or a series of books that you actually implement a suggestion and stick with it for years? There are lots of great books out there. I have read many of them. Often times a book may spark a new habit or create change that just simply fizzles out. Rachel Hollis, Gabbie Bernstein, and Jen Sincero are just a couple of those authors that I enjoyed their books immensely but please don’t ask me what I learned. Ok, that’s not completely true. Jen Sincero made me realize and accept the fact that my real job work is worth X and not to sell myself short by compromising to earn Y. Besides that one example, I can’t really think of much from those authors.
Back around the fall of 2015, I picked up one little book that changed my life. Before you roll your eyes at the “changed my life” phrase, just hear me out. These books may also spark long-term or indefinite change in your life.
#1 – The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. This book chronicles Rubin’s quest to spend a year trying to change habits, build new habits, but mostly trying to have more fun. The first chapter starts in January and runs the full year. Rubin tries new habits each month.
What did I get out of this book? I decided to call appointments, things to do, and tasks as adventures. Simply looking at our pup and asking if he wanted to go on an adventure psyched me up to go for a walk along with our pup. It wasn’t being along with our pup that freaked me out. I am just a homebody type of person that prefers to be cuddled up on the couch reading a book. I’m also an introvert so I don’t like making plans on the weekend after I spent the whole week in the office with other people.
In addition to adventures, I started creating themes or seasons. I realized that not all habits are easy to start or break. This book taught me to give myself a little slack and I have to admit that negative self-talk rarely occurs. I try to see the bright side of most things. I have implemented many power hours over the years.
#2 – Happier at Home by Gretchen Rubin. This book is more about creating happiness within your home. How to love the home that you have. Rubin starts Happier at Home in September and it runs the whole school year. Each month has its own theme.
I’m the type of person that needs to reinforce good new habits over and over and over again. Just take my no-spend year #3 in a row for example. I didn’t feel that the new habit of not mindlessly shopping and spending wastefully was firmly created in my life so I did a second no spend year last year and I’m on my third no spend year this year.
What did I get out of this book? Rubin talks more about creating habits that build a happier and healthier home. It’s something I wanted to do at our home. Growing up I didn’t exactly live in the model happy home yet I knew they existed, I just needed some guidance on how to achieve that at our home. By reading this book, I was able to implement a couple new tips, tricks, and habits to achieve more peace and happiness at our home. P.S. it does not require your spouse/partner to read the book, they somehow change their behaviors too.
#3 Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin. Who else needs a step-by-step set of directions to change a habit? Or maybe you just want to know why you always do that one thing? Better than Before walks through the research on habit formation without the boring and dull side. Rubin helps readers get to know themselves better and gives science/research-backed tips and tricks so that you can successfully implement new habits and keep those habits going.
What did I get out of this book? I don’t know about you but I grew up in a home where you questioned nothing, never dared to say no, and were punished for doing your own thing. Yeah, it’s not healthy, and yes I’m in therapy. Rubin helped me see that I’m a questioner (Four Tendencies), that I need to schedule and monitor my progress, that I can start a new habit anytime (because New Year’s day is so arbitrary to me), I’m better off abstaining rather than moderating (looking at you chocolate bars), how to spot loopholes, best types of rewards, and mostly how to kick some ass in my habits.
Have you read any of these books? What did you think? Comment below!
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