I QUIT. And I am happier than Ever!

Over the years I have learned more and more about myself. I would say that over the past five years have been the most amazing growth spurt that I have every had to date. I have a greater sense of compassion, I can see where someone is coming from even if I don’t agree with their opinions, I am around people with diverse opinions, and I focus on self-care so that I can be a better me, furmom, and wife. How have I learned so much? Sometimes from reading a book. Sometimes from observing others. And sometimes deciding what I refuse to make time for anymore.

Years ago my calendar would be stuffed full by others. I would regret accepting, being told to accept invitations, or given a guilt trip to say yes. Our house was stuff full by others. I would somehow get suckered into accepting other people’s discarded stuff that we did not need or find useful or beautiful. My body was over feed and under nourished. I was overweight yet extremely unhealthy.

I refuse to give time, money, and/or energy to the following:

  1. Filling my calendar with guilt. I stopped saying yes to everything. I put up boundaries and those that screamed the loudest about those boundaries got even more boundaries set. I started saying no to things that did not excite me. I started determining an end time for an event when an event did not have an end time. It still feels really weird when I have a free afternoon. I can’t seem to fully embrace the free afternoon without questioning myself (I’m still working on that).
  2. Hangovers. I am 1,000,000% over hangovers. Like I have written about before, I have a bunch of food allergies and navigating the food area took up so much mental space that I unexpectedly gave up drinking. Now it’s been over 5 years since I last consumed alcohol and I regret nothing. Rather than having a glass of wine before bed, I now have a glass of tart cherry juice. It is really the tradition of sitting down to relax with a glass that I craved. Now I just swapped it with juice and wake up completely refreshed.
  3. Fixing the past. Listen I was an asshole and others were assholes. I admit I was. But you know what, people change. Some people can grow and change while others hold tight to old stories. For those that hold tight to those old stories, I feel bad for you. There are a lot of amazing things going on in the present and they are missing all of it.
  4. Shopping without a reason. I started this whole blog because I wanted to document my no spend year in 2019. At this point, I don’t care to mindlessly shop. I do like to look and enjoy what is going on in the world but I can’t and don’t care to mindlessly shop. Shopping for no reason drives me crazy.
  5. Dry cleaning clothes. My personal work uniform is a simple cotton blend black dress. I refuse to go back to the weekly dry cleaning trips. Waste of money and time as well as polluting the environment.
  6. Skipping workouts. Many, many, many times in the past I would let others talk me out of my workouts. I would hear you can work out another day. I’m not skipping my workouts anymore. Either people can deal with me post workout with or without a shower because I’m not skipping my workouts.
  7. Explaining or proving myself. Before I would argue, explain, or attempt prove myself to others. I am to the point that I literally do not care what others think about me. I know in my heart that I am the best version of myself, doing the best that I know how to do in the moment, and I won’t explain or attempt to prove myself.
time lapse photography of square containers at night

What have you quit lately? How did it make you feel?

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