Self Care February was certainly a great idea. I finally went to physical therapy and found out that I have plantar fasciitis issues. Truthfully it’s been bothering me for two years but I kept thinking it was everything but plantar fasciitis. In the spirit of Self Care February, I took on the challenge of figuring out the issue. Am I thankfully I did? Sure. No really I am very happy I figured out the problem. Do I miss running and leg workouts? Absolutely!
As we enter the last week in February, I went back to Gretchen Rubin‘s The Happiness Project to re-read. I will never forget when I finally picked up this book. It was around July 2016 when I wandered around Barnes and Noble to look for a book. I did not have anything in mind, so I just wandered. Around that same time I was about a year into my new job. My new job allowed me to be home every night (my old job had me living out of a suit case gaining lots of weight and not really making me happy) but I wasn’t quite living the life that I had envisioned. The new job was good, yet we lost some teammates (you know the good old “job elimination bit”) and I was feeling really down. Was I going to be next? I understand that people move jobs. Moving jobs it just a part of life. However, seeing people’s jobs just eliminated really shook me up. I am nearly fives years into my new job and there have been annual job eliminations with no end in stopping them. Sometimes these job eliminates have hit my teammates and other times they just nearly missed us.
Once I started reading Gretchen Rubin‘s The Happiness Project back in 2016, I couldn’t put it down. It was the kick in the ass that I needed to take control of my life, my feelings, and my habits. This book helped me see what changes I wanted to make in my life and how to make these changes stick. The Happiness Project showed me ways to stop or try to stop my negative responses when a negative response really was not warranted. The book wasn’t about buying things to make me happy. It was more about personal development and growth. Coming back to this book, I am amazed and how many of Gretchen’s tips and tricks stuck with me.
Enjoy the process. When I trained to pass a physical fitness test, I kept telling myself to enjoy the process. Sprints sucked. Push-ups were terrible. But looking back, training to pass that test was absolutely incredible even when I passed the test!
Acknowledging peoples feelings helped me empathize with someone’s struggles but not take on their energy.
Acting the way I want to feel. So many times our default statement when we wake up is to say we are tired. Maybe you really didn’t sleep and so you are truly tired. But really think about if you are truly tired. I am still catching myself saying those words, I pause, and then say no I am actually well rested and ready for today.
Learning to fight right. There is no need to bring up shit from 3 years, 9 months, and 15 days ago during a fight (most of the time). So I have vowed to say what I really need to say, when I need to say it.
Stop nagging. Listen, there are times when I get annoyed at my husband. I bite my tongue because nagging or yelling is not going to make me feel the way I want to feel.
Developed my own commandments. Be Bonnie. Say no when my guts says no. Spend time with people that fill me up. Below are my rules for 2020.
- Say no when your gut says no! Don’t feel bad.
- Slow down.
- Keep the “to do list” short.
- If something causes overwhelm just skip it. Nobody will notice anyways.
- Unless the train is going to run you over, don’t worry about yelling “train” to others. You aren’t responsible for what happens to them.
What’s in my ear buds?
I believe in a world where it is fun and not loaded to talk about our bodies because our bodies are awesome. Full disclosure: I haven’t always felt this way, not by a long shot. I understand the difficulty here, so let’s move into this topic together.The Lazy Genius